Well, many women like being passive and some enjoy being dominated, but the key is that it is their choice. If it ain't, it's a problem. Japanese men have domination fantasies, I suppose. Likewise many women have rape fantasies, but the key is that they have total control over a fantasy. They have no control over forcible rape. That's a very big deal. There must be two consenting adults or it is not a sex act, but some form of intimidation.